Ina and Rikke

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Ina describes entering a mentoring relationship as a sort of therapeutic process: she had to get used to asking for help and taking advice.

Neither Ina nor Rikke had a clear picture of what their mentor relationship would evolve into when they first met each other. Their expectations were not completely matched, yet their mentoring relationship proved very fruitful for both of them.

Ina was born in London, the daughter of an English mother and an Indian father. She came to Denmark when she was two years old. Ina has a Masters degree in Religion, and at the time of applying to the Mentor Network she was unemployed. She knew she needed help finding a job.

Ina was matched with Rikke who has a Masters in Library and Information Science. Rikke was born and raised in Frederikshavn, but moved to Copenhagen to work as a consultant with an IT corporation.

Both Ina and Rikke felt unsure as to what they could expect and ask of their mentoring process. They met not just once but several times before they decided to pursue the mentoring relationship on a formal basis. Ina describes it as a sort of therapeutic process, where she first had to get used to asking for help and taking someone else's advice. Moreover, she had to find out what she wanted help with and how.

Rikke was not so involved in helping with the search for a job. She kept saying that a job would come along soon. She felt that she could offer more as a mentor when Ina had finally found work.

Although at first glance Rikke was not the mentor Ina had in mind, she chose to give the relationship a chance. It proved to be worth it.

As Rikke had predicted, Ina found a job as a consultant in short order. Ina and Rikke now found themselves talking about the challenges ahead. Employment conditions, salary and recent developments in the consulting industry were just some of the topics they could share.

Rikke also appreciates that she received from Ina as much as she gave. Rikke had the opportunity to look at her own work by putting it into words, and it felt liberating to be able to talk with Ina about the pros and cons associated with working in a consultancy environment. They were actually using each other as sparring partners.

Like many other mentor relationships, Ina and Rikke experienced an evolving process. The mentoring dynamics developed in ways that neither of them could have imagined. When it was time to put an end to the formal mentor relationship, they did so, but they stayed in touch. They recognised that any uncertainty at the beginning of a mentoring process should not deter anyone. Openness and trust can develop gradually - and sometimes much sooner than you would think.

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Nutsopplulk xaikalitag inighstania http://uillumaror.com - iziananatt Evireemooke http://gusannghor.com saustosictpaf

Good article, rn salary

KVINFO's mentoring program is a wonderful, needed initiative that is proven successful by these moving stories.
I moved to Denmark at the age of 23 from the United States and wish that this initiative to help women had been in place at that time.
I was recently made redundant after 24 successful years in the travel technology industry and while looking for a job, only now realized that your organization exists! Your mentor program is exactly what I needed. The program and your stories make me realize that I am not alone and that there are women in Denmark who want to help make a difference in the lives of other women.
I hope I can perhaps be a part of this.
I realize this is not the correct forum to convey this message but I cannot help but come with these comments after reading some of these stories.

Sincerely,
Valerie Guido

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